"After my father died, I felt a tremendous need to do something;
something of meaning and significance. I knew I wouldnıt say Kaddish
more than once or twice. There had to be something else that I could
do to help fulfill that need, and to make a difference."
---- Michael, 39 years old, businessman.
This book is for Michael, and for the thousands of others out there
who feel just like him.
What This Book Is All About
The section of this book is a 30-day path of learning. Whether
your loss was recent or many years ago, you will spend approximately
five to ten minutes a day dedicated to the memory of your loved one,
learning something from our Jewish heritage. Many of the main ideas
central to Judaism will be brought to life. Some will be familiar,
others will be new.
Each day begins with the same prayer:
May God remember my [relationship: mother, father, friend, etc],
[his/her name] , in whose merit I am now studying about my heritage of
Judaism and the Torah.
For example: If someone lost a father whose English name was
John Stein, and Jewish name was Moshe, and his fatherıs Jewish name
was Avrom, the prayer would go something like this:
May God remember my father, Moshe ben Avrom, in whose merit I am now
studying about my heritage of Judaism and the Torah.
Or: May God remember my father, John Stein, in whose merit I am
now studying about my heritage of Judaism and the Torah.
You may use their English names, but it is preferable to use their
Hebrew or Jewish names. For example, you may say, "my mother, Robin
Cohen", or "my mother, Rachel bat Yosef Chaim." "bat" means "daughter
of", "ben" means "son of".
Itıs your choice. You can insert both English and Hebrew names if you
wish, whatever you feel most comfortable with.
After the 5 to 10 minutes of study, you will end with the following
Our Merciful God in Heaven, May this portion of Torah learning be a
merit and a blessing for my [relationship], [name]. May [his/her] soul
be bound in the bond of life. May [his/her] resting place be that of
Later in the book, people who have also experienced a loss will share
their reflections. Space is included for your own thoughts and
feelings linked to the theme of learning for that day.
Remember -- everything you do here in the memory of those who have
departed makes a real difference. You are increasing their share in
the World to Come. You are increasing their eternal pleasure.
May God comfort you in your time of sorrow, and may each moment that
you are learning be a merit to the one who inspired it, the one you